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Different types of kissing.
People kiss in many different ways. Passionate kisses, friendly kisses, playful kisses, all these variations depend on the moods and relationships between people. A swift kiss before leaving for work in the morning is very different from the longer kiss that precedes a night of passion. Kissing is fun most of the times and people whom you wouldn't like to kiss can usually be kept at a distance. This is an act of intimacy that is not easily forced upon somebody. The best known type of kiss is the French kiss. You can see it in every movie and is probably used by the largest part of young and adult lovers around the world. French kiss means that the two partners kiss with open lips and their tongues touch. I'm not sure if the French have actually been the first to kiss like that, but let's say the name is a tribute to the city of lovers, Paris.
The two partners can use their tongues to explore each other's mouths. This is actually up to the imagination of the two people involved, since there are far too many ways in which the play of tongues can underscore tenderness and passion. A good one is the kiss that is meant to surprise and to convey intensity, rather than tenderness. When your lover is working, sleeping or generally absorbed by something, plant a quick kiss on her lips by surprise. Be careful not to spoil the surprise. Kiss her hard (or light) and fast to show her that you love her and that you are in a playful mood. Afterwards you can choose between retreating and leaving her to her business or going for more kisses. A break from work has never hurt anybody.
Another kind of kiss much favoured by passionate lovers focuses on the lips instead of the inside of the mouth. This is very much a kiss designed to convey a strong sense of passion and a lack of inhibitions. The basic idea is to suck gently on one of your partner's lips. Since she is likely to have her mouth slightly open in expectation of a French kiss, this can be easily accomplished. Just pick one of the lips and suck gently on it for a second or two. Make sure you are very gentle about it because injuries are no fun. A variation of the kiss described above is meant to add yet another twist to the passion that unfolds between you and her. While sucking on your lover's lip, use your teeth to bite her lip very gently. Just nip on it, don't go for a full fledged bite. This type kiss should be used by lovers who have kissed before. It's not exactly the kind of thing one does on the first date. The options are endless here. Don't be afraid to experiment with your lover and to show your passion and tenderness. Sincere and passionate kisses are among the best things in life.
Do's and don'ts. What not to do when kissing
When it comes to sex and love, there's no such thing as too much knowledge. No matter how much experience one has, there are always some things that were missed, some bits of information that did not reach him or her. And since most people have other things to do with their lives than striving to become a sort of walking sex and love encyclopaedias, it follows that everybody needs tips now and then.
Among the physical expressions of love, kisses are very versatile tools in the emotional kit of any human being. From the short and tender kiss of a grandmother, to heads of state briefly touching their lips to each other's cheeks and on to passionate lovers French kissing their way to a hot session of sex, it's obvious that our lips can express many things. And since the best kisses are those that come out right, some tips are in order for the use of people who either don't get much practice or are not catching up fast on what they should do. Don't laugh! Nobody was born knowing how to do this or that thing. We all have to learn.
While we can all be thankful to the French for opening the door to the intimate play of tongues (although it's not clear whether the French kiss comes from Paris or not), kissing is actually a universal language that can be learnt by all people. Traditionally, French kissing has been associated with the Western world, from which it's now spreading around the globe.
When preparing to go for the kiss, take your time for a reality check. Is the girl willing to go along with this or not? If you're about to make your approach and the girl gets an embarrassed look on her face and starts fidgeting in her chair in what may be seen as an evasive manoeuvre, then pull back and give her some breathing space. Don't rush things because you're going to regret it. First thing you need to know is that French kisses are not meant for the first date, unless, of course, the girl is quite the party animal and you both know that your date has only one purpose. In that case, anything goes if you can get away with it; even sex in the restaurant's lavatory. Or if the girl is so clearly willing that there can be no mistake about it. But in all other cases, save French kissing either for the end of the date or for another date. Two things that girls hate is to have guys shoving their tongues down their throats and to have their oxygen supply cut off during kissing. Therefore, you need to take care that you leave the girl enough room to breathe or to break the kiss every now and then. This will also help you, because you also need the oxygen. Two people kissing are sharing an intimate moment, not engaging in an endurance test or in a race to the death.
When actually going for the kiss, don't charge with your tongue sticking out or your mouth. This can gross out even the hardcore promiscuous people. Put your lips against hers and only then let your tongue come out to play. And don't stab her mouth with your tongue. Keep your cool and read her emotions. If she wants more passion or a little rough play, then go ahead and do what you think best. If not, then keep your tongue to yourself.
On the other hand, if both you and your partner find yourselves exhausted by a prolonged session of passionate kissing, then you are on the right path. It means that she enjoys your kisses and that she probably doesn't mind going even further. Just remember to refrain from rushing things. The slow path is sometimes best.
When should I go in for the first kiss?
Love and sex are among the things that make our lives better and increase our pleasure to live. But every good thing has a less pleasurable side and one must admit that a lot of stress is associated with these delightful activities. The first touch, the first kiss, the first evening out, the first night spent together, all these key moments of the early part of a relationship can be very stressful for both partners. Some people think that these moments can make or break relationships, but the issue is still up for debate.
Not everybody gets it right the first time and many first nights spent together are not that great. It takes time to learn what the other likes, wants and looks for in and out of bed, so there are bound to be a lot of early fumbles and mistakes.
On the plus side, these awkward moments may end up as sweet memories two lovers can laugh about years later. Still, a mistake is a mistake and the fewer one does, the better off everybody is.
Since you both are most likely to be nervous the first time, make sure you set the stage for this event.
When you feel you are both comfortable with each other and that your relationship has advanced enough to warrant a more intimate approach, make a plan for the setting of the first kiss. Choose a location you are familiar with and whose main feature is intimacy.
There is also an ungodly amount of hype surrounding first kisses. The two partners should, allegedly, hear bells ringing or feel like having a thousand butterflies in their stomachs and other such nonsense.